1. Start Here
Welcome to your personalized Strong One P.I.V.O.T.™ Toolkit.
This toolkit is specifically designed for you if you are used to being capable, dependable, and the one others can count on, even when carrying it all becomes too much. You are likely here because you are tired.
You do not need to use everything in this toolkit in one sitting.
Start with the Strong One P.I.V.O.T.™ Resistance Diagnostic below. It will help you identify why letting go may be so difficult for you. It will then point you toward the P.I.V.O.T.™ worksheet that is likely to be most helpful for you right now.
From there, move toward the worksheet that may be most helpful for you right now. You do not have to work through P.I.V.O.T.™ in order.
Only complete the worksheet that feels most pertinent on the day you take the Diagnostic. You do not need to do more just because you can!
Along the way, you’ll also find short videos and audios from me. I created them in real time while navigating my own struggles with my strength, when being the Strong One had started to bite me. Think of them as little nudges for the moments when you need reassurance, perspective, grounding, laughter, or simply a reminder that you are not alone.
I am there with you. I, too, am a Strong One, figuring out how to make more self-loving decisions amidst extreme uncertainty.
Start by listening to my short welcome audio below. Then take the Diagnostic.
2. Now Find Out What’s Making Letting Go So Hard
Take the Strong One P.I.V.O.T.™ Resistance Diagnostic to identify what may be making it difficult for you to let go right now. Your result will point you toward the P.I.V.O.T.™ worksheet that may be most helpful for you today.
When you are done with your Diagnostic, return to the section below and click on the P.I.V.O.T.™ step your result points you toward. Remember: you do not need to do them all. Start with what you need today.
3. After Taking Your Diagnostic, Pick Your P.I.V.O.T.™ Path Below
Visit this section only AFTER taking your Diagnostic.
Your result has identified the area that may be making it hardest for you to let go right now. Go directly to the section — Pause, Introspect, Vector, Overcome, or Travel Forward — that your Diagnostic pointed you toward.
Do only ONE section today. This is not another list to complete or another thing to get right. Give yourself permission to work only with what is asking for your attention right now.
You can always return, retake the Diagnostic, and explore another section when you need it.
4. Need a Little Extra Support?
These additional resources don’t belong to just one P.I.V.O.T.™ step. I found them especially helpful as daily anchors during my own periods of uncertainty, especially on the days when being the Strong One made it harder to soften, let go, or simply be where I was.
- ⏯️ Waking Up With Intention (5 min 14sec audio) — Before getting out of bed, decide how you want to meet the day. Talk to yourself with intention, just as I do.
- 📹 What’s Today’s Surprise? (1min 42sec video) — Open the curtains each morning and notice what might be waiting to delight you. Consider it a gift.
- 📹 What Made You Laugh? (2min 38 sec video) — Remember what makes you laugh so you can reach for it again, especially on difficult days.
- 📹 If Your Mind Worries, Think… (1 min 21 second video) – Instead of worrying about it not working out, what if you worried about it working out instead?